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Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
TODDLERS AND TIARAS MAKES MY TEETH HURT
I think these pageants for "littles" should be banned! Have you seen the show, TODDLERS AND TIARAS on TLC? It is very sad. Look at these pictures:
I can definitely see that they have a beautiful child, BUT....the eyes look so hollow...empty...no emotion...FAKE!
This is a million dollar business, especially in the south. The fake nails, fake teeth, airbrushing, fake eyelashes, fake hair, spray tans and $2000 dresses are perpetuating outer beauty not inner beauty. These contest venues must be a pedophiles dream.
I've seen how these little girls behave when they are not on stage. They are rude, spoiled, poor losers and down right divas. In defending these pageants the mom's will tell you that their daughters "love" the attention of being on stage (as they sit crying in the background....) are learning poise, confidence and have high self esteem, when in reality their childhood has been stolen from them and all they have to show for it is a few ribbons and a warped sense of what is really important in life.
One mom was bragging about the 39 crowns and $5,000 that her 5 year old daughter had won over her 3 years of competing, while admitting that they are spending $30,000 a month on acting classes, ballet lessons, photographs, hair pieces, fake teeth, spray tans, modeling classes, travel expenses, dresses, and dance lessons, but have nothing in the bank for her education and they're credit cards are maxed out! Really?!?! This is what you want to be teaching your daughter.
I can definitely see that they have a beautiful child, BUT....the eyes look so hollow...empty...no emotion...FAKE!
This is a million dollar business, especially in the south. The fake nails, fake teeth, airbrushing, fake eyelashes, fake hair, spray tans and $2000 dresses are perpetuating outer beauty not inner beauty. These contest venues must be a pedophiles dream.I've seen how these little girls behave when they are not on stage. They are rude, spoiled, poor losers and down right divas. In defending these pageants the mom's will tell you that their daughters "love" the attention of being on stage (as they sit crying in the background....) are learning poise, confidence and have high self esteem, when in reality their childhood has been stolen from them and all they have to show for it is a few ribbons and a warped sense of what is really important in life.
One mom was bragging about the 39 crowns and $5,000 that her 5 year old daughter had won over her 3 years of competing, while admitting that they are spending $30,000 a month on acting classes, ballet lessons, photographs, hair pieces, fake teeth, spray tans, modeling classes, travel expenses, dresses, and dance lessons, but have nothing in the bank for her education and they're credit cards are maxed out! Really?!?! This is what you want to be teaching your daughter.
Monday, March 29, 2010
THE "REAL" HOUSEWIVES....PLEASE!
I love THE REAL HOUSEWIVES of Atlanta, New Jersey, Orange County and especially, THE REAL HOUSEWIVES OF NYC ! This is comedic relief for me. These women are so over the top, living a life that is so far from "reality," with so much DRAMA, that it makes me ECSTATIC that I am NOT them.
I don't catch every episode and you really don't need to because these women dwell on past slights for days, weeks and entire seasons, in some cases.
It's not like you're missing them saving the world or anything. They spend their time: working out, getting plastic surgery, eating at fancy restaurants, shopping (clothes, yachts, shoes, cars, homes, etc...) attending fashion shows or anything where they can be photographed by the press, hosting events (wine tasting, dinner, tanning party), giving to charities (to show how philanthropic they are...) fighting, spoiling their children, bailing their children out, launching a book (clothing line, drink...), divorcing, marrying, dating, posing for pictures (they're going to need back surgery from sticking out their chests so far...), talking about how wonderful they are or gossiping about others.
I have to comment on the title....THE REAL HOUSEWIVES....Housewife is a term used to describe a married female who is not employed outside of the home. Most of these women have jobs outside the home, which I have no problem with, but they are RARELY at home. Even the ones who have children, spend so much time away from them that they need nannies to take up the slack.
This is the cast of THE REAL HOUSEWIVES OF NYC:
Ramona Singer is this very bizarre (deer in the headlight eyes), outspoken, easily offended know-it-all. She loves pinot grigio and "fashion." She has a 14 year old daughter that dresses like an old lady. Ramona thinks that asking someone about their boob job at a fancy dinner party is appropriate. "I don't know why people are so easily offended?"
Jill Zarin likes to put on "charity" events to "show" how charitable she is. Last season her best friend told her to, "get a hobby," and she is willing to lose the friendship over it. She was so offended by the comment that she has kept the message on her cell phone and shares it with others so they will be offended for her. She likes her friends to "need" her and can't be happy for others successes. She had her apartment redecorated and now it is gaudier then it was. She also has a fancy suitcase that she just uses for shoes ($1,000-$5,000 a pair). The money these people have to blow is obscene!
Bethenny Frankel has a very quick wit and is very sarcastic. For that, I like her, but she's also very crass, pompous and unless the conversation is about her, she's not interested. She posed nude (almost) for PETA's, "I'd rather go naked then wear fur," campaign, and didn't understand why her boyfriend would be upset when she sent on the pictures to his work e-mail. She also came up with some drink called a "Skinny Girl Margarita" and has a book on how to cook and live healthy.
LuAnn de Lesseps....she was married to a Duke, who's family was responsible for building the Suez Canal, and is "technically" a Countess and introduces herself as such and is very offended when others don't use the term too. Her nose is so high in the air, she suffers from nose bleeds. She has written an etiquette book called, Class with the Countess...it is quite ironic because she has the LEAST class of all of them. Her teenage daughter told her that some of her high-school guy friends think that she is "hot," and "Miss Class" was obviously proud of this. It was disgusting.
Kelly Killoren Bensimon is a model, but I never heard of her until this show. She is 40 years old this year and posing for the "classy" PLAYBOY. For being a model, her fashion sense stinks. These women think that the less they cover the hotter they are. She is also known for showing up to events late, to make an entrance and leaving early because, she has "another event to attend." I think it's a whole lot of baloney just to draw more attention to herself. Like her cleavage doesn't do that already. I would be SO embarrassed to have her as my mother.
Alex McCord is the nicest of the bunch. Don't get me wrong, she is still extremely egotistical and materialistic, but she causes the least drama. Her main focus is "fashion" and her children (François, 4, and Johan, 2), in that order. She is married to....
...Simon van Kempen who is the "gayest" (not meant to offend) acting straight man, I have ever seen. He loves "fashion" too and he loves being "just one of the housewives." I have not figured out yet by he and Alex have different last names. Just me being old fashion, I guess.
These people are so disfunctional it makes the Octomom, Kate Gosselin, Tiger Woods, and the Osborns look like they have simple, boring, ordinary families.
I am not bashing these people out of any jealousy because I brake out each week just watching them run their lives into the ground. It certainly would be nice to have the money, but living in a city, in front of cameras, wearing 5 inch heals and skin tight dresses, while running around trying to make people love me, is not my idea of a good time.
If I did have more money then I knew what to do with...what would I do with it....honestly...
* have a large farmhouse in the country
* adopt more kids
* splurge on a cook and a maid (I'm being honest...I hate housework.)
* travel
* start a school/camp for kids living in poverty
* give money away secretly to deserving organizations/individuals
* pay off peoples bills anonymously (I love to do this now, but on a much smaller scale...by the next person in line her coffee, pay the toll for the next car, etc....)
* start a scholarship
So, what do you think....do you watch the "housewives".....what would you do if you were RICH! How many of you would splurge on the maid like I did.....be honest now!?
I don't catch every episode and you really don't need to because these women dwell on past slights for days, weeks and entire seasons, in some cases.
It's not like you're missing them saving the world or anything. They spend their time: working out, getting plastic surgery, eating at fancy restaurants, shopping (clothes, yachts, shoes, cars, homes, etc...) attending fashion shows or anything where they can be photographed by the press, hosting events (wine tasting, dinner, tanning party), giving to charities (to show how philanthropic they are...) fighting, spoiling their children, bailing their children out, launching a book (clothing line, drink...), divorcing, marrying, dating, posing for pictures (they're going to need back surgery from sticking out their chests so far...), talking about how wonderful they are or gossiping about others.
I have to comment on the title....THE REAL HOUSEWIVES....Housewife is a term used to describe a married female who is not employed outside of the home. Most of these women have jobs outside the home, which I have no problem with, but they are RARELY at home. Even the ones who have children, spend so much time away from them that they need nannies to take up the slack.
This is the cast of THE REAL HOUSEWIVES OF NYC:
Ramona Singer is this very bizarre (deer in the headlight eyes), outspoken, easily offended know-it-all. She loves pinot grigio and "fashion." She has a 14 year old daughter that dresses like an old lady. Ramona thinks that asking someone about their boob job at a fancy dinner party is appropriate. "I don't know why people are so easily offended?"
Jill Zarin likes to put on "charity" events to "show" how charitable she is. Last season her best friend told her to, "get a hobby," and she is willing to lose the friendship over it. She was so offended by the comment that she has kept the message on her cell phone and shares it with others so they will be offended for her. She likes her friends to "need" her and can't be happy for others successes. She had her apartment redecorated and now it is gaudier then it was. She also has a fancy suitcase that she just uses for shoes ($1,000-$5,000 a pair). The money these people have to blow is obscene!
Bethenny Frankel has a very quick wit and is very sarcastic. For that, I like her, but she's also very crass, pompous and unless the conversation is about her, she's not interested. She posed nude (almost) for PETA's, "I'd rather go naked then wear fur," campaign, and didn't understand why her boyfriend would be upset when she sent on the pictures to his work e-mail. She also came up with some drink called a "Skinny Girl Margarita" and has a book on how to cook and live healthy.
LuAnn de Lesseps....she was married to a Duke, who's family was responsible for building the Suez Canal, and is "technically" a Countess and introduces herself as such and is very offended when others don't use the term too. Her nose is so high in the air, she suffers from nose bleeds. She has written an etiquette book called, Class with the Countess...it is quite ironic because she has the LEAST class of all of them. Her teenage daughter told her that some of her high-school guy friends think that she is "hot," and "Miss Class" was obviously proud of this. It was disgusting.
Kelly Killoren Bensimon is a model, but I never heard of her until this show. She is 40 years old this year and posing for the "classy" PLAYBOY. For being a model, her fashion sense stinks. These women think that the less they cover the hotter they are. She is also known for showing up to events late, to make an entrance and leaving early because, she has "another event to attend." I think it's a whole lot of baloney just to draw more attention to herself. Like her cleavage doesn't do that already. I would be SO embarrassed to have her as my mother.
Alex McCord is the nicest of the bunch. Don't get me wrong, she is still extremely egotistical and materialistic, but she causes the least drama. Her main focus is "fashion" and her children (François, 4, and Johan, 2), in that order. She is married to....
...Simon van Kempen who is the "gayest" (not meant to offend) acting straight man, I have ever seen. He loves "fashion" too and he loves being "just one of the housewives." I have not figured out yet by he and Alex have different last names. Just me being old fashion, I guess.These people are so disfunctional it makes the Octomom, Kate Gosselin, Tiger Woods, and the Osborns look like they have simple, boring, ordinary families.
I am not bashing these people out of any jealousy because I brake out each week just watching them run their lives into the ground. It certainly would be nice to have the money, but living in a city, in front of cameras, wearing 5 inch heals and skin tight dresses, while running around trying to make people love me, is not my idea of a good time.
If I did have more money then I knew what to do with...what would I do with it....honestly...
* have a large farmhouse in the country
* adopt more kids
* splurge on a cook and a maid (I'm being honest...I hate housework.)
* travel
* start a school/camp for kids living in poverty
* give money away secretly to deserving organizations/individuals
* pay off peoples bills anonymously (I love to do this now, but on a much smaller scale...by the next person in line her coffee, pay the toll for the next car, etc....)
* start a scholarship
So, what do you think....do you watch the "housewives".....what would you do if you were RICH! How many of you would splurge on the maid like I did.....be honest now!?
Sunday, March 28, 2010
CHURCH BULLETIN BLOOPERS
These sentences actually appeared in church bulletins or were announced in church services:--------------------------
The Fasting & Prayer Conference includes meals.
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Ladies, don't forget the rummage sale. It's a chance to get rid of those things not worth keeping around the house. Bring your husbands.
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Remember in prayer the many who are sick of our community. Smile at someone who is hard to love. Say 'Hell' to someone who doesn't care much about you.
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Don't let worry kill you off - let the Church help.
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Miss Charlene Mason sang 'I will not pass this way again,' giving obvious pleasure to the congregation.
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For those of you who have children and don't know it, we have a nursery downstairs.
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Irving Benson and Jessie Carter were married on October 24 in the church. So ends a friendship that began in their school days.
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Eight new choir robes are currently needed due to the addition of several new members and to the deterioration of some older ones.
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Scouts are saving aluminum cans, bottles and other items to be recycled. Proceeds will be used to cripple children.
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Please place your donation in the envelope along with the deceased person you want remembered.
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Potluck supper Sunday at 5:00 PM - prayer and medication to follow.
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The ladies of the Church have cast off clothing of every kind. They may be seen in the basement on Friday afternoon.
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This evening at 7 PM there will be a hymn singing in the park across from the Church. Bring a blanket and come prepared to sin.
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Low Self Esteem Support Group will meet Thursday at 7 PM. Please use the back door.
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GOD HEAR OUR PRAYERS #89
My mother has always had a prayer list and I've now started one of my own. So each Sunday I will publish the prayer requests of anyone who e-mails me. Please keep us updated as God answers your prayers too.Who we are praying for this week...
* My mother's hip and heart to be healed.
* My mother's recovery from her stroke.
* The country and people of Chile.
* The country and people of Haiti.
* Debbie needs some words of encouragement.
* All those children still waiting to find a Forever Family
* Those hurt by organizations that are suppose to protect them.
* Those trying to be reunited with lost family.
* Manuel has lost his dad to cancer.
* My friend, Penny's, entire family is very sad. Need prayers for healing their hearts and spirits.
* Janice needs healing from her cancer. She now needs round the clock care.
* Lana wants prayers that she is matched soon.
* BB's husband's job situation.
* K-the birthmother of our baby
* Bri's hubby's job situation.
* Lisa - guidance for hubby & adoption plans to fall into place
* Dawn - husband to hear God and find his way to Him
* Christy prayers and praise
* Rebel may your troubles end soon and blessings for Turtle and Kent
* orphaned and alone
* Foster Care reform
* those in Foster Care needing their parents to step up
* Foster Care mothers and fathers
* peace in the Middle East
* our economy
* honesty in our leaders
* all service men and women that they may come home soon
E-mail me if you have someone for me to add to the weekly prayer request. God Bless.
Saturday, March 27, 2010
GREAT T-SHIRTS
My friend, Mike, is on vacation in Florida and he sent these pictures of the great t-shirt they found at the flea market.
Friday, March 26, 2010
THE PWEOR OF THE HMUAN MNID
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I've always been attracted to a sexy voice....
After my divorce, I met and dated men that answered my personal add that I had on-line. So, it stands to reason that the first contact I had with them was over the phone. They were sure to at least get a first date if....they had a sexy voice. I love a man's voice that purrrrrsssss. (I quickly realized I had to be more picky, because the sexy voice rarely fit the person I met...but that's for another post.)
Like this guy. His name is Michael Dorn. I fell in love with him when I saw him play....
....Warf, on Star Trek. His forehead ridges certainly didn't turn me on and I couldn't figure out why I found him attractive until I heard him do a commercial, where all I heard was his voice....BINGO! That's it...the purrrr in his voice. To this day I get all hot and bothered by a man who can purrrrrr!So, now you know what first attracted me to my husband too.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
I HAVE A COUPLE QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Does anyone know why I'm NOT getting the notifications about comments waiting to be moderated, sent to my e-mail anymore? Now I just see that I have them waiting on my dashboard.
Next year, the 5th grade teachers at my school are hoping to do a 5th grade academy. Basically it would mean that we would each teach reading and one other subject, instead of all the subjects and the kids would rotate around to our classrooms (....kind of what students do in mid and high schools).
Do any of your elementary schools do this model? If so I would really appreciate examples of schedules being e-mailed to me, so we can get ideas of how to plan this.
We have to fit in their p.e., library and computer times during the week and figure out how to get them to their specials (resource room, speech, OT, PT etc.) also. It's getting a little confusing.
I'M GOING TO GET YOU!!!
Samuel LOVES being chased. I growl at him and he giggles and crawls away really fast. Then when you get close to him....
...he chases after you! He's also become really good at growling too! So cute. I usually have a baby gate blocking this door because otherwise he would have me playing this game for hours!!! Plus this is the the only room where the cats can get any peace!
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Monday, March 22, 2010
Camille
Heather at PRODUCTION NOT REPRODUCTION is hosting an interview project between bloggers that have experience with adoption or are waiting to adopt. My partner was Camille who has a blog The Adoptive Mother. I think it's interesting that we've been partnered because she's adopted 5 and I only have 1. She gives me a lot of hope for the future!
Here is a picture of her lovely family. My interview with Camille.
QUESTION: So, maybe you can guess my first question....why did the birth mom keep getting pregnant? I've read some of your blog...where you say you kept getting calls, but I'm confused as to why she didn't use birth control?
From what I understand she really wanted to get pregnant the first time and have a baby. The next two pregnancies were unplanned and she was not prepared to raise three small children all by herself. We met her when she was pregnant with her third child. With the next two children, she was married both times before she got pregnant and I know she really wanted to be married and have a family of her own. Things did not work out the way she planned and again she found herself unable to care for another child, so she asked us to adopt her daughter (this happened twice). She did have her tubes tied with her last pregnancy and my husband and I have adopted all five of her children.
QUESTION: How did the other kids handle the birthmom deciding to try and parent and then the child coming back into your again? Were they nervous about possible not seeing the newest child again?
This was a very hard thing to deal with, with my younger boys, when my oldest son went back it wasn’t that big of a deal because he was only 9 months old. The hardest time was with the birth of my daughter Ava. We spent time with Ruth (my children’s birth mother) before Ava was born going to doctor appointments and they knew she was having their sister. When we didn’t get her, we had several long talks about “why” and I tried to answer their questions the best I could. They knew they would at least see their sister because we would see Ruth, but the inevitable question was “why did she keep them and not me?” Luckily we don’t have to answer that question now because my husband and I have ALL of her children.
QUESTION: Do you plan on adopting more children?
No - I am good with FIVE!
QUESTION: How do you finance it all?
Our adoptions were actually quite inexpensive, I think all combined we paid less than $1500 for attorney fees and our attorney didn’t keep any of that money, he donated it to a victim’s reparation fund. The most expensive thing was doing the home studies (average $800-1000 each, but we only had to have four). The rest of the costs were minimal and were just absorbed in our monthly expenses. We were very blessed to find our attorney; he has been a God send to us. He doesn’t even do adoptions normally; he just did ours to help us out. I also did a lot of the paperwork myself to help with costs.
QUESTION: What has been the greatest joy with your children?
I love being the one who is there for them. I love when they hug me and tell me that they love me. I talk a lot with my older boys and I love when they tell me “I am so glad you are my mom.” I love being a mom!
QUESTION: What has been the hardest part of adoption?
Missing the first part of my children’s lives and having them get treated differently because they are “adopted.”
QUESTION: What kinds of questions do the children ask about their birthfamily?
“Why didn’t she keep me? What would my life be like if I lived with my birth mom? Where is my birth father? Why does she keep having children and giving them up? Is he/she happy? Do they miss me?
QUESTION: What do you think needs to change in regards to adoption these days?
This one is hard for me to answer only because I did all of our adoptions privately. I had no idea what to expect with open adoption. I just readily agreed to about everything they said because I wanted to be a mom so badly I didn’t care about the negative part. It was really hard for me in the beginning as I tried to adjust being a new mother and still having my children’s birth mother and grandmother come over all the time to visit, usually unannounced. I think I would require prospective adoptive parents and birth mothers to attend classes discussing options and ideas about what they would be willing to share and how open they want the adoption to be (and let them understand that this will change over time).
QUESTION: What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?
That I am this great mother for adopting these children and that I must be really patient. I am really just a normal mother blessed with extraordinary children that I adore! I have good days and bad days just like everyone else, I am not always the best mom, but I try my best.
QUESTION: Was your family accepting of this whole process?
My entire extended family have been very supportive and also my husband’s family. They treat my children just like any other grandchildren or niece and nephews. I think most people forget they are even adopted.
QUESTION: How do you answer rude questions from strangers?
I try to just answer honestly (even though it is hard not to be sarcastic when they ask stupid questions!) It really bothers me when people ask private things about my children in front of them. I just tell them that it isn’t appropriate to talk about it, or that it isn’t any of their business. I really hate that people assume that I love them less because they are adopted, that is so absurd! i.e. “they are not really YOURS?” – my answer - What kind of statement is that, of course they are mine you idiot!” One of my favorite sayings is “Do I look real, then YES, I am their REAL mother!” I love them more than I could ever imagine a mother loving her children.
QUESTION: How young were your kids when you started explaining to them that they were adopted and what that meant?
My boys were about 3, only because they either already knew (my son was 3 ½ when we adopted him) or their older siblings told them first. My daughter, who is 7, knows about Ruth, but I don’t really think she understands the entire concept yet. I think they understand more around age 9-10 because that is when they seem to start asking the most questions. I just try to give each of them an honest answer when they ask a question about their birth mother or father.
Camille is a new blogger and would probably love some new followers and comments. Stop over and read the entire adoption story. It's very fascinating!
Here is a picture of her lovely family. My interview with Camille.
QUESTION: So, maybe you can guess my first question....why did the birth mom keep getting pregnant? I've read some of your blog...where you say you kept getting calls, but I'm confused as to why she didn't use birth control?
From what I understand she really wanted to get pregnant the first time and have a baby. The next two pregnancies were unplanned and she was not prepared to raise three small children all by herself. We met her when she was pregnant with her third child. With the next two children, she was married both times before she got pregnant and I know she really wanted to be married and have a family of her own. Things did not work out the way she planned and again she found herself unable to care for another child, so she asked us to adopt her daughter (this happened twice). She did have her tubes tied with her last pregnancy and my husband and I have adopted all five of her children.
QUESTION: How did the other kids handle the birthmom deciding to try and parent and then the child coming back into your again? Were they nervous about possible not seeing the newest child again?
This was a very hard thing to deal with, with my younger boys, when my oldest son went back it wasn’t that big of a deal because he was only 9 months old. The hardest time was with the birth of my daughter Ava. We spent time with Ruth (my children’s birth mother) before Ava was born going to doctor appointments and they knew she was having their sister. When we didn’t get her, we had several long talks about “why” and I tried to answer their questions the best I could. They knew they would at least see their sister because we would see Ruth, but the inevitable question was “why did she keep them and not me?” Luckily we don’t have to answer that question now because my husband and I have ALL of her children.
QUESTION: Do you plan on adopting more children?
No - I am good with FIVE!
QUESTION: How do you finance it all?
Our adoptions were actually quite inexpensive, I think all combined we paid less than $1500 for attorney fees and our attorney didn’t keep any of that money, he donated it to a victim’s reparation fund. The most expensive thing was doing the home studies (average $800-1000 each, but we only had to have four). The rest of the costs were minimal and were just absorbed in our monthly expenses. We were very blessed to find our attorney; he has been a God send to us. He doesn’t even do adoptions normally; he just did ours to help us out. I also did a lot of the paperwork myself to help with costs.
QUESTION: What has been the greatest joy with your children?
I love being the one who is there for them. I love when they hug me and tell me that they love me. I talk a lot with my older boys and I love when they tell me “I am so glad you are my mom.” I love being a mom!
QUESTION: What has been the hardest part of adoption?
Missing the first part of my children’s lives and having them get treated differently because they are “adopted.”
QUESTION: What kinds of questions do the children ask about their birthfamily?
“Why didn’t she keep me? What would my life be like if I lived with my birth mom? Where is my birth father? Why does she keep having children and giving them up? Is he/she happy? Do they miss me?
QUESTION: What do you think needs to change in regards to adoption these days?
This one is hard for me to answer only because I did all of our adoptions privately. I had no idea what to expect with open adoption. I just readily agreed to about everything they said because I wanted to be a mom so badly I didn’t care about the negative part. It was really hard for me in the beginning as I tried to adjust being a new mother and still having my children’s birth mother and grandmother come over all the time to visit, usually unannounced. I think I would require prospective adoptive parents and birth mothers to attend classes discussing options and ideas about what they would be willing to share and how open they want the adoption to be (and let them understand that this will change over time).
QUESTION: What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?
That I am this great mother for adopting these children and that I must be really patient. I am really just a normal mother blessed with extraordinary children that I adore! I have good days and bad days just like everyone else, I am not always the best mom, but I try my best.
QUESTION: Was your family accepting of this whole process?
My entire extended family have been very supportive and also my husband’s family. They treat my children just like any other grandchildren or niece and nephews. I think most people forget they are even adopted.
QUESTION: How do you answer rude questions from strangers?
I try to just answer honestly (even though it is hard not to be sarcastic when they ask stupid questions!) It really bothers me when people ask private things about my children in front of them. I just tell them that it isn’t appropriate to talk about it, or that it isn’t any of their business. I really hate that people assume that I love them less because they are adopted, that is so absurd! i.e. “they are not really YOURS?” – my answer - What kind of statement is that, of course they are mine you idiot!” One of my favorite sayings is “Do I look real, then YES, I am their REAL mother!” I love them more than I could ever imagine a mother loving her children.
QUESTION: How young were your kids when you started explaining to them that they were adopted and what that meant?
My boys were about 3, only because they either already knew (my son was 3 ½ when we adopted him) or their older siblings told them first. My daughter, who is 7, knows about Ruth, but I don’t really think she understands the entire concept yet. I think they understand more around age 9-10 because that is when they seem to start asking the most questions. I just try to give each of them an honest answer when they ask a question about their birth mother or father.
Camille is a new blogger and would probably love some new followers and comments. Stop over and read the entire adoption story. It's very fascinating!
Sunday, March 21, 2010
GOD HEAR OUR PRAYERS #88
My mother has always had a prayer list and I've now started one of my own. So each Sunday I will publish the prayer requests of anyone who e-mails me. Please keep us updated as God answers your prayers too.Who we are praying for this week...
* My mother's hip and heart to be healed.
* My mother's recovery from her stroke.
* The country and people of Chile.
* The country and people of Haiti.
* Debbie needs some words of encouragement.
* All those children still waiting to find a Forever Family
* Those hurt by organizations that are suppose to protect them.
* Those trying to be reunited with lost family.
* Manuel has lost his dad to cancer.
* My friend, Penny's, entire family is very sad. Need prayers for healing their hearts and spirits.
* Janice needs healing from her cancer. She now needs round the clock care.
* Lana wants prayers that she is matched soon.
* BB's husband's job situation.
* K-the birthmother of our baby
* Bri's hubby's job situation.
* Lisa - guidance for hubby & adoption plans to fall into place
* Dawn - husband to hear God and find his way to Him
* Christy prayers and praise
* Rebel may your troubles end soon and blessings for Turtle and Kent
* orphaned and alone
* Foster Care reform
* those in Foster Care needing their parents to step up
* Foster Care mothers and fathers
* peace in the Middle East
* our economy
* honesty in our leaders
* all service men and women that they may come home soon
E-mail me if you have someone for me to add to the weekly prayer request. God Bless.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
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