Welcome back to our discussion of the book, MAKING CHILDREN MIND WITHOUT LOSING YOURS by Dr. Kevin Leman. I would love to read all your thoughts, opinions and comments. My comments will be in green.
If you're just joining us, you may want to read chapters 1-6 first.
Here are the links:
Chapter 1: IT'S A JUNGLE OUT THERE! GRAB A VINE!
Chapter 2: Inconsistency-or How to Raise a Yo-Yo
Chapter 3: It's All In the Eye of the Beholder
Chapter 4: Why Reward and Punishment Don't Work
Chapter 5: Pull the Rug Out and Let the Little Buzzards Tumble
Chapter 6: Danger--Super Parent at Work!
Now let's move on to...
Chapter 7: The Way to Be Your Child's Best Friend
Let's cut to the chase...
"...always make good use of your most powerful ally: natural or logical consequences. The Scripture nicely describes natural consequences in Galatians 6:7. To paraphrase the verse slightly, 'A child reaps what he sows.'"
I see so many parents that are either too hard, or too soft with their parenting. The too hard ones think they can be on top of their kids 24/7 and come "hell or high water" their kids will behave. The too soft ones want to be "liked" and are easily manipulated into feeling guilty for handing out the discipline. Essentially, they are feeling guilty for doing their job and being the parent. During the first few minutes of a conference, where both parent and child are present, I can tell who runs the house. I can also tell which end of the spectrum this parent falls into. I have very few that find and operate within that happy medium.
I have said this before, but I think it all comes down to parents not wanting the job they signed up for. In my book, everyone should be required to have parenting classes before they have children. I think background checks and a urine sample should have to passed too, but that's just me.
"...always make good use of your most powerful ally: natural or logical consequences. The Scripture nicely describes natural consequences in Galatians 6:7. To paraphrase the verse slightly, 'A child reaps what he sows.'"
I see so many parents that are either too hard, or too soft with their parenting. The too hard ones think they can be on top of their kids 24/7 and come "hell or high water" their kids will behave. The too soft ones want to be "liked" and are easily manipulated into feeling guilty for handing out the discipline. Essentially, they are feeling guilty for doing their job and being the parent. During the first few minutes of a conference, where both parent and child are present, I can tell who runs the house. I can also tell which end of the spectrum this parent falls into. I have very few that find and operate within that happy medium.
I have said this before, but I think it all comes down to parents not wanting the job they signed up for. In my book, everyone should be required to have parenting classes before they have children. I think background checks and a urine sample should have to passed too, but that's just me.
1 comment:
Hi Tracey,
Well, if you're an adoptive parent, you certainly know a lot about tests and tribulations.
I don't often write about it, but I'm an adoptive parent too. It's probably the best thing I've ever done, but the process was long and tough.
A friend of mine said, "If all parents had to go through what you went through, there'd be a lot fewer kids around."
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