Friday, April 30, 2010

REMEMBERING CORY....part 4



Read part 1 here, part 2 here and part 3 here.

When I saw Cory and mom on Monday they both gave me a big hug. Mom told me that she had got a temporary restraining order against Dad and that he had spent the weekend in jail.

NOTE: I would find out later that Grandma (Dad's mother) had left harassing phone calls for Cory's mom and then Grandma had bailed Dad out Monday morning.

Mom left and Cory and I went on with our school day, both confident that Dad was locked away.

I had recess duty at 2:30 that day. Dad didn't know that Cory's confession had all gone down at the school because he showed up at the school about that same time to pick up Cory. He went to the office asking for Cory and even signed his and Cory's names in the book we have for taking a student out early. The office staff was shocked and let him know that that would not be happening and they told him they were calling the cops.

He must have known that this was recess because he took off, running, out of the office, heading for the playground, but not without the assistant principal, the janitor and a male teacher taking off after him too.

Meanwhile, Cory and I were on the playground, totally unaware of what was about to happen....

....I sprung to attention when I heard Cory screaming my name and running full tilt in my direction. Looking past her I saw a man (I didn't know it was Dad, but I think I assumed it was...) running toward us. I didn't wait long enough to see the other men behind him. I was told later, by other teachers, that it was quite a sight to see me swooping up Cory and running toward the building, while three men tackled the dad to the ground.

I ran with Cory to the office and I told them what was going on. They had me hide with Cory in the principal's inner office. The cops showed up about 10 minutes later and mom very soon after that.

Dad was arrested (the bail was revoked). The teacher's on the playground, the men who tackled Dad, the office staff and myself all gave statements. It took quite some time to calm Cory down, but eventually she stopped shaking and went home with Mom. (A bunch of us would later testify in court about what happened.)

Cory did eventually come back to school (about three days later). Mom and she started going to counseling. Dad was not given bail again and we all lived through the trial.

I tried to keep things as normal, as possible, for Cory. If she wanted to talk I let her, but otherwise we didn't discuss things. I let her take the lead on that one. Mom came in about once a week to see how she was doing and seemed to be coping quite well. She said she knew she had to be strong for Cory and that is what was keeping her sane.

The rest of the year (except for the trial), thank God, was pretty uneventful. Cory would end up moving out of state that summer. Mom called me to tell me they were leaving. We met for coffee. She thanked me for all I did. I game Cory a little teddy bear and we all cried as we said our good-byes. I never heard from them again.

Cory would be 28 years old this year. I can only hope that she has a family of her own and is happy, healthy and enjoying her life to the fullest.

I know I touched her life....I only hope she knows how much she touched mine.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

REMEMBERING CORY....part 3



First, you can read part one here and part two here.

I had a great group of kids my first year (1990). There were 10 boys and 12 girls. Third graders will do anything for a little praise and some candy or stickers. We were not under "The Assessment Nazis" yet, we still had art and could spend 30 minutes outside watching clouds and call it science. It was a different world then. I was very excited to have my first classroom, but very naive. Cory...I'll admit it...she was my favorite! Cute little brown haired, eight year old. We took to each other right away. She would always sit by me during story time, hold my hand at recess and bring me pretty rocks or dandelions she found on the field.

My first year was going wonderfully well...my little ones came in eager to learn...I was enjoying my new job...and learning tons every day (none of which had they taught me in college), then I was told the counselor would be coming in to do a presentation on "Good Touch, Bad Touch." After this Cory and I would be changed forever and the safe little bubble we thought we lived in would burst.....

The presentation on "Good Touch, Bad Touch" was very informative. The counselor came in and showed a movie and then held a discussion.

The main points:

* It is never your fault
* That no one has a right to touch your body unless your give them permission
* Your private areas are where your bathing suit covers
* If you broke your leg, should your mom, dad or doctor have to look at your private areas....well, no of course not, but if you fell on the middle bar of your bike, really hard, yes that would be appropriate.
* If you tell someone and they don't believe you, keep telling until you find someone who does.

The whole thing, with questions, took about 30 minutes and then we went on with our day.

Later, when I released the kids to lunch recess, Cory came up to me with her head down and started to cry. I sat down with her and without even having to ask she spilled her guts. I thanked God that I had developed such a good relationship with her. Basically, she confessed to me that her dad had been "touching" her at night and that it had been going on for about a year. She said she hadn't told her mom because her dad said it was their "secret game" and she was afraid her mom would be mad with her.

I told her we needed to go talk with the counselor and after I convinced her that I would stay with her and her mom wouldn't be mad with her, she agreed to go. She told her story again to the counselor, and then we called the cops and her mom and she told the story two more times, never letting me leave her side. Her mom was devastated and started to cry, but she held Cory and told her that Dad would never do that again. Cory finally seemed to relax after she saw that Mom was supporting her and that she wasn't mad.

The cops wanted to pick the dad up right away, so Mom took Cory home to pick up a few things and then they were going to spend the weekend (this was a Friday) at Grandma's house (The cops had advised her to find a safe place to stay for a few days.). Mom cried, gave me a hug and thanked me for all that I had done. Cory wanted me to go home with her, but I told her she'd have a fun time at Grandma's and I'd see her on Monday.

I kept it together for the rest of the day, but left immediately after the bell rang, rushed home, cried my eyes out and had a very LARGE and STRONG KAHLUA AND CREAM!

I thought about Cory all weekend and was eager to see her on Monday. Little did I know that Dad was not giving in so easily......

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

OUTSIDE FUN!

We had a fun time at the park today!

Samuel loves feeling the sand between his toes.

Do I have a gorgeous kid or what? His newest cuteness is to wave bye-bye to everyone and everything.

He adores the swings.

He laughs the entire time that Daddy is pushing him and tickling his feet.

He has the cutest giggle now! He's also amazed us by crawling to his bedroom when we ask him if he needs his diaper changed or if he's ready for a nap.

I also have a gorgeous husband! Love ya, Honey!

REMEMBERING CORY....part 2


Read part 1 here.

I moved to New Mexico two weeks after I graduated from college and moved in with my (9 years older then me) boyfriend. There is a whole other back story in here that I won't get into right now....moving on....

...I borrowed a "mature" looking dress from my sister and interviewed everywhere....

...finally I got hired as a half-time kindergarten teacher, at a year round school all the way across town (22 mile commute). I was so excited!

Those first two weeks I taught are an entirely different post (I was not meant to be a kindergarten teacher.....), but to make a very long story short, the same day they lost my allotment because there weren't enough kinder kids to justify my position, a third grade teacher quit and I got her job instead. Now I had a full time position....I moved up in the world...my boyfriend and I got a bigger apartment and I got health insurance.

I LOVED MY KIDS! Yes, even after twenty years I can still remember them. One student stands out....Cory....

Monday, April 26, 2010

REMEMBERING CORY....part 1


My first year of teaching was an eye opener. Not only had I just graduated college and moved from a VERY small, working class, all Catholic, all white, New England town, but I could no longer get around on my bike, so at twenty-two years old, I bought my first car, I had to cook my own meals, pay my own bills, get used to a new boyfriend (bad mistake...long story....), and be totally responsible, plus I had moved to a very large, low income, culturally diverse, desert city in New Mexico, and now someone had decided I was mature enough to be responsible for 22, 3rd graders' education for a year.

College, by the way, did not prepare me for any of this.....

I wish...

* I'd lived on my own for a year...
* I'd worked in my home town for a year to get my feet wet...
* I continued on at 22 years of age, and got my masters degree....
* I'd substituted for a year....
* I'd been more mature...
* I'd taken assertiveness training...
* I could have adopted Cory....

Sunday, April 25, 2010

GOD HEAR OUR PRAYERS #93

My mother has always had a prayer list and I've now started one of my own. So each Sunday I will publish the prayer requests of anyone who e-mails me. Please keep us updated as God answers your prayers too.

Who we are praying for this week...

* My mother to be healthy and happy.
* The country and people of Haiti.
* All those children still waiting to find a Forever Family
* My friend, Penny's, entire family is very sad. Need prayers for healing their hearts and spirits.
* Janice needs healing from her cancer.
* Lana wants prayers that she is matched soon.
*
BB's husband's job situation.
* K-the birthmother of our baby
* Bri's hubby's job situation.
* Lisa - guidance for hubby & adoption plans to fall into place
* Dawn - husband to hear God and find his way to Him
* Christy prayers and praise
* Rebel blessings for Turtle and Kent
* orphaned and alone
* Foster Care reform
* Foster Care mothers and fathers
* peace in the Middle East
* our economy
* honesty in our leaders
* all service men and women that they may come home soon

E-mail me if you have someone for me to add to the weekly prayer request. God Bless.

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Thursday, April 22, 2010

TOO MUCH ASSESSING?


We just finished 2 weeks of standardized testing. After 20 years in education the amount of time I actually spend teaching students has slowly dwindled. We have 182 days of school...

* 1 day at the beginning of the year is spent on PBS TRAINING (POSITIVE BEHAVIOR SUPPORT...not testing, but it's a day that I don't teach)
* 9 days doing writing assessments (plus three 1/2 days I am out of the classroom to grade them.)
* 10 days doing DBA testing (and we still have one more round of these to go...so that will be another 5 days)
* 5 days spent on the BIG STATE TEST (broken up into 10 1/2 days)
* 22 days of subject assessments (2 hours every 2 weeks for miscellaneous assessments in every subject, which works out to about 1 full day lost every two weeks)

= 47 days of assessment, which is 25% of the school year! I need more teaching time or they won't have anything to assess!

I wish school were longer every year. Why not have all schools go from Labor Day to the end of May? We'd still get plenty of vacation time: 1 week in the fall, 2 weeks at Christmas, one week in the spring, all of June and July and all the miscellaneous Monday holidays.

What do you think?

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

I'M BACK!

It was nice to take a week off from blogging. Next I'm getting rid of my farm on FACEBOOK. It takes up WAY too much time. Plus, I've found something I like much better...Wii! I have already played a lot of bowling and the yoga lessons are great....I am very sore! I'm hoping to get in better shape with the strength and aerobic training.

This past Sunday, Richard had one of his rare days off. We went to the duck pond and then the park and had ice-cream and played on the slide and in the sand. It was a lovely family day out...of course, I forgot my camera, but trust me, we all had a great time.

We've finally finished the BIG STATE TEST at school, so now I can actually get back to teaching! What an interesting idea?!

Monday, April 19, 2010

Sunday, April 18, 2010

GOD HEAR OUR PRAYERS #92

My mother has always had a prayer list and I've now started one of my own. So each Sunday I will publish the prayer requests of anyone who e-mails me. Please keep us updated as God answers your prayers too.

Who we are praying for this week...

* My mother to be healthy and happy.
* The country and people of Haiti.
* All those children still waiting to find a Forever Family
* My friend, Penny's, entire family is very sad. Need prayers for healing their hearts and spirits.
* Janice needs healing from her cancer.
* Lana wants prayers that she is matched soon.
*
BB's husband's job situation.
* K-the birthmother of our baby
* Bri's hubby's job situation.
* Lisa - guidance for hubby & adoption plans to fall into place
* Dawn - husband to hear God and find his way to Him
* Christy prayers and praise
* Rebel blessings for Turtle and Kent
* orphaned and alone
* Foster Care reform
* Foster Care mothers and fathers
* peace in the Middle East
* our economy
* honesty in our leaders
* all service men and women that they may come home soon

E-mail me if you have someone for me to add to the weekly prayer request. God Bless.

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Sunday, April 11, 2010

GOD HEAR OUR PRAYERS #91

My mother has always had a prayer list and I've now started one of my own. So each Sunday I will publish the prayer requests of anyone who e-mails me. Please keep us updated as God answers your prayers too.

Who we are praying for this week...

* My mother's hip and heart to be healed.
* My friend, Penny's, entire family is very sad. Need prayers for healing their hearts and spirits.
* Amber had a miscarriage
* Janice needs healing from her cancer.
* Lana wants prayers that she is matched soon.
*
BB's husband's job situation.
* K-the birthmother of our baby
* Bri's hubby's job situation.
* Lisa - guidance for hubby & adoption plans to fall into place
* Dawn - husband to hear God and find his way to Him
* Christy prayers and praise
* Rebel blessings for Turtle and Kent
* orphaned and alone
* peace in the Middle East
* our economy
* honesty in our leaders
* all service men and women that they may come home soon

E-mail me if you have someone for me to add to the weekly prayer request. God Bless.

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Saturday, April 10, 2010

BLOGGING BREAK!

I've hit a writer's block....I have nothing really to say....see you in a week!

Friday, April 9, 2010

LIFE IS NOT FAIR


Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school.

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

FASHION TIPS

Couldn't lose those last few pounds before the cruise...don't worry...wear this.

Are you a librarian that likes to go wild on the weekends? Here is the outfit for you!

This is perfect when you're trying to blend in and don't want people to know you're a super hero.

The perfect wedding dress for when they finally make marrying your pets, legal.

Do you love the smell of stinky feet? Relax at home wearing this.

Want to show off your great legs on a hot day...here are the shoes for you!

Do you have coworkers who are "close talkers" or others that tend to invade your space? Here is your solution.

Finally, everyone looks good in pink. Right?