For all you out there that have adopted or are considering adoption go to FOR BIRTHMOTHERS BY BIRTHMOTHERS. They posted questions for birthmothers to answer. It is very enlightening. It makes me so happy that we were able to be at the hospital when Samuel was born, that "K" got to spend two days with him, that we participated in the blessing ceremony and that we send "K" tons of pictures. For those still in the adoption process, keep their answers in mind, as it may make the process go more smoothly, unspoken needs to be met and your relationship closer.