Friday, December 19, 2008

Happy Housewife!!

I AM NOT COMPLAINING! SAM IS THE BIGGEST BLESSING IN MY LIFE AND I WOULD NOT CHANGE THAT FOR ANYTHING....with that said....I wanted to mention the things that I've found to be challenging so far....

...I was spoiled all these years. I could come and go as I pleased and get 50 things done in one day. Now I live my life in 3-4 hour increments. I love being home, but challenges abound when you're a house wife.

The first has to be the lack of sleep, of course. Even with only getting 2 -4 hours sleep a night, I am very awake in the mornings. A hot shower helps even more then the coffee does. Evenings are harder for me because after being awake all day (I'm not a nap taker....I can't shut my mind off.), and I sit to relax on the couch, my eyes get heavy quickly. I don't know how single moms do it! I have a divorced friend who had a new baby last spring and she lives in an apartment with the new baby and a 3 year old. Her mother and sister live close by, but she has to take ALL the night shifts on her own. Without Richard, I don't know what I'd do.

Second, would have to be, finding time for my husband and I to eat and drink. I've taken to carrying a water bottle around with me, just so I won't get dehydrated. When I get stressed I don't eat and I've lost about 6 pounds over the past 2 weeks and that is not good, considering I only weigh 100 pounds (on a good day). My brother told me that when his twin girls were born, his wife and he survived off of cereal for the first two weeks. I want to eat well, but I don't want to take the time away from Samuel to plan things and dinner time is when he is usually very awake. So, I went out and brought frozen entrees that can we cooked quickly. We're going to do this for now until we get used to all the changes.

Third, how to organize my day!?! Since I live my life in 3-4 hour increments, I have to plan errands and duties differently. I found FLYLADY about a year ago and she really helped me to reorganize how I get house hold chores done. Now, I'm going to have to totally rework the schedule I came up with, to fit Samuel's schedule. My sister, MaryKay, said that she found, when she had her first child and then her second, she had to totally lower her expectations for what she would and could get done in a day. That is exactly what I'm finding too. If I get one, two or three projects (bed made, laundry done, bathroom cleaned) done in the morning and maybe another (finances) done in the that is a good day. 


I wouldn't be able to do any of this without my best friend, Richard. I've always known my husband was a wonderful man, but in the past two weeks this man has been AMAZING. He encourages me to take naps, brings me drinks, rubs my back, calls from work to make sure I ate lunch, stops off at the grocery store on the way home, tells me I'm a great mom and cooks too. He's done all this, without ever uttering a single complaint. He loves holding and feeding his son. He's really stepped up and loves being a Dad. Sorry ladies, but he's ALL mine!

Our family has also been AMAZING! Richard's family has not only provided monetarily, but has mailed us clothes, a hand made blanket and toys too. Without them, this adoption would never have taken place. Apple, which is Richard's mother, will be visiting in January. She's written to Samuel (personally), a couple of cute notes, which I will save and put in his baby book. My sister, Genie, has saved my life in more ways then one. I've called her at 2 AM having a panic attack. She's great at relaxing me and calming my fears. Not everyone would let you do this and still come over the next day to cook you dinner, wash your kitchen floor, let you cry on her shoulder, buy you groceries and stay the night to let you and your husband rest. Thank you so so much, Genie. My mother loves being a grandmother. She's come by, probably, 5 out of the past 10 days, just to hold Samuel. (Thanks for driving her over, Dad.) This then gave me a chance to go grocery shopping and walk the dog. I also can't forget my two brothers, Mark and John who have provided "money for the cause" too. We'll have a visit soon from Mark, his wife and twins and my other two sisters. We are hoping to take a trip this summer to California, so Samuel can meet all of the family on Richard's side too. I don't know what I'd do without this TERRIFIC family! I LOVE YOU ALL! THANK YOU SO, SO MUCH!

I am also blessed to have my "blogger buddies." You have all been so supportive and encouraging. I look forward to all the prayers and comments. I had said I was taking a bloggy brake, but I find that writing and posting are very therapeutic and I need you guys to get through my day. It's amazing how God has touched my life through the Internet. Thank you so much for being there for my family! Amy even sent me a Christmas card. What a great surprise that was!!

I've always been a home body and I love "keeping" house. So being a mom and taking care of Richard and my dear Samuel has really made me feel that I am finally who I was always meant to be. I still get emotional when I think about all we've been through and how much God has blessed our lives. God is so good!


Amy said...

Bless your heart! Your cup runneth over, amen?:) God is SO good.
It's even more touching to think of the gift that God gave you both in Samuel...when you realize we celebrate Christmas all because of the birth of a baby boy. A very special baby boy. This will be a Christmas that you will never forget, because you received "The Best Gift of All!":)

I pray all of God's blessings for you, Richard, and Samuel.

Merry Christmas!

Melba said...

I love this post and how candid you are with all that's been going on. All things considered, it sounds like the transition is going smoothly. What a wonderful feeling to look back and realize how far you are where you're meant to be!!


Headless Mom said...

You are allowed to have these frustrations!!!!! Your world just turned completely upsidedown, and regardless if you (or I!) wanted it more than anything or not, it is still a HUGE CHANGE AND ADJUSTMENT! I remember those days of no sleep, adjustment, and abundant love for that new child-it's amazing! Continue to take care of yourself when you can, and let others do it for you when you can't. You are very lucky to have so much help. You'll get there!

Darcie said...

Yes. There certainly are many challenges. But the blessings definitely outweigh them.

Michele said...

It will get better! It will! You know Samuel will grow so quickly (ask me how I know?)let the things you can go. This time is so precious. It seems Justin just came home he is now seven!! How did that happen??? I miss my babies! Enjoy every minute even the stressful, lack of sleep, feeling like your about to drop dead minutes, you can't get them back.
My advice? (not that you asked!) a carrier or sling. Life was so much easier with a carrier for Kaden. I didn't really know about them with Justin. Kaden was a very needy baby and I carried him everywhere, while I cleaned and cooked and it helped a lot.
Enjoy this special time with your new little sweetie. You are so blessed!

Annie said...

I am so happy for all of you and think of you often. You'll have this down in no time.

Your MIL's name is Apple, everyone was giving Gwyneth a hard time and it wasn't even her idea. I think it's sweet.

Reggie Boppy said...

I am so glad that you so content with being your family's number 1 caretaker! It's wonderful that you feel like this is what you were meant to do! What a great feeling! :) So happy for you Tracey!!!

Debbie B said...

I wasn't a napper either. Only took me a couple of weeks before I took an afternoon nap when Isabel did.

I did Dinner Station meals our first two months. I just had to remember to take them out to thaw the night before. You should see if you have something like that in your area. I did cereal, cheez-its anything I could eat with a hand or out of a cup. Eventually you'll learn that it's okay to let him fuss for a few minutes. Only took me about 7 months!
The bathroom, laundry and bed will be there. Enjoy the time bonding with your son. I do waht I can during the day when she sleeps but I get most of my things done after she's gone to bed and try not to worry about what didn't get done. But you sound like a much more organized & detailed person then I am.
So glad that you have such a wonderful family close and far to help you through these moments.
You are a blessed woman!