So, blog friends, especially those who have adopted, the question is, "Who would not want to see this face and hold this cute little boy?"
In our adoption contract we agreed to send pictures and letter to "K" 4 times a year until Samuel is 3 years old and then 2 times a year until he is 18 years old. In the last letter I sent, at the beginning of October, I mentioned that if "K" would like to see Samuel around his first birthday (in December) we would be open to meeting with her and her family. It's now the end of October and we haven't got any reply. The last time we called "K" it didn't seem like she wanted to talk and she kind of rushed us off the phone, so we are hesitant to call her. I understand that some people need to keep their distance, as a way to deal with not having their child in their lives, but I was so hoping she would want to see him. Maybe it's just too hard for her to see him again. Some of my family thinks it's a good thing that "she has moved on with her life" and will make things easier in the future, but I'm not so sure.
I had got used to the idea of Samuel having "K" in his life and he'd just grow up knowing who she was. Having known "K" since she was 5 months pregnant, I had the impression that she would want to have a lot of contact with us. Now, I don't know what to think. Maybe I'll call my facilitator at the agency and ask her what she thinks of the situation. I certainly do not want to push myself on "K," but I want to have some understanding of where her thinking is, so I have some idea of what to expect in the future. I rehearse what I will say to Samuel about "K" and his adoption and I'm not sure how to tell him that she had the opportunity to be in his life, but chose not to.