Thursday, May 28, 2009

What Jon and Kate need to hear...


There are two sides to every story and being on the outside looking in sometimes gives you a better perspective then those embroiled in the mix. So here goes...

What I think Jon needs to hear:

Jon, you are a great husband and father, but you're a majorly, henpecked husband. Kate is always griping about one thing or another. You teach people how to treat you and for too long you have allowed Kate to talk down to you and order you around. I know you are very laid back, which probably is one of the reasons you and Kate have worked well together in the past, but it's time to step up and speak your mind. Now that the paparazzi are parked outside your door I think you're right in wanting to end the show so your family can have a semi-normal life. Yes, you made some poor choices, but nothing so bad as to end a marriage over. Don't let divorce be an option. I have no problem with you having a weekend to yourself, especially since you have 8 children. I think "old school." It would do your ego wonders to work outside the home and have Kate be the stay-at-home parent. I think (in general) woman are more suited to it. Your a great daddy and your kids need you in their lives. Thanks for stepping up to be a strong role model ,while Kate has been gone on her book tour. You and Kate need to have a long private conversation and reevaluate where you are, what you want and where you are going. Think back to how you felt about each other at the beginning of your relationship. I can't imagine the cost and pressure of raising 2 sets of multiples, but the decisions you make now will affect who they are as adults. Please think of them and don't be so willing to cut your loses and move on so quickly.

What I think Kate needs to hear:

Kate, you've a great wife and mother, but you need to tone down the testosterone. You had very good intentions with your show, but I think it's time is up. Your marriage and children are much more important. It's no longer safe for your children, with the media following you so closely. Jon is entitled to his laid back personality, just like you are entitled to your controlling personality. These two things can actually be complimentary to each other. You have said you agree that you have put Jon through a lot over the years. I think he needs to hear you acknowledge that. Is it really so unreasonable that Jon wants a weekend to himself? I think you both need a weekend to yourself. Wouldn't it be a nice break and help you to feel rejuvenated? There are 51 other weekends in the year for Jon to do chores. Just like picking your battles with your children, pick your battles with Jon too. Is it so important that your right all the time? Don't let divorce be an option. Unless he's had an affair, has Jon really done anything so terrible? I think "old school." Let Jon go out to work and you stay home with the kids. It will do wonders for his ego. Thanks for stepping up and being a strong role model, but all your kids need you home. You said that as long as they are taken care of, fed and loved, they will be ok. Yes, that is true, but they need you physically there too. You and Jon need to have a long private conversation and reevaluate where you are, what you want and where you are going. Think back to how you felt about each other at the beginning of your relationship. You've said you've tried for 6 months...let's try for 6 months more....aren't your kids worth it. I can't imagine the cost and pressure of raising 2 sets of multiples, but the decisions you make now will affect who they are as adults. Please think of them and don't be so willing to cut your loses and move on so quickly.

3 comments:

Rebekah said...

Agree 100%. Cried through the show and told Ben afterward how sad I was. Seems like they've given up...

Cindy said...

while I agree, I also think that they need to end the show. At least until they get their marriage issued under control. I truly belive the show is adding o the stress. Jon says he wants to stop, and Kate says no. Why? So she can afford her 1.3 million dollar house?

happymomof2 said...

I COMPLETELY agree- think of the children!!! Monday nights new episode was so hard to watch, and I cried through it- it just wasn't them. I hope and pray that they find the strength to make the right choices for their family and stick together!!!! Thanks for your blog entry, so true:)