Thursday, October 23, 2008

Frustrated and Annoyed!!!

I haven't felt the need to whine for quite some time, but this was a story that really got to me...

I know a teenager "J" who goes to high school with these two sisters. Lets' call them "D" and "F." They are both 17 and both of them already have one baby. Of course, their "Mama" takes care of "their" babies while they go on with their selfish lives.

Then, a couple days ago, I find out from "J" that "F" just found out that she is pregnant again! Of course, there are two different fathers. Maybe if "Mama" had made their lives a little more complicated....or....actually had them taking care of their own children and not allowed them to run around looking for a new boyfriend to make them feel special...or...counselled them on the BEST choice for their babies, like adoption....then these two little innocent babies would have whole families and not a dim witted teenager as a mother.

Now, I know there are some mothers out there that were teenagers when they got pregnant and are very good mothers now. I know it can happen, but I think you are the exception, not the rule. To those mothers, please understand that part of my frustration is fueled by my inability to just "pop" out kids left and right. I am jealous, frustrated and annoyed.

But obviously "F" hasn't learned from her poor choice the first time and doesn't have the good sense or counsel to make the appropriate choice for herself or her children.

Maybe, if all adults, wanting to have children, had to go through what those of us who adopt did, then their would be a lot less unparented children out there.

I'm going off my soap box now....thanks for listening....

6 comments:

Merlot said...

I so hear you.

Amy said...

Anytime.....

Sometimes we just have to vent.

I wanted to tell you that I am three fourths of the way through "The Shack." I love it! I will email you when I finish it. Thank you so much for sharing it with me.

God Bless,
Amy:)

Mama Smurf said...

My cousin adopted a little girl 3.5 years ago. The birth mom had a little boy at the age of 16. When that little boy was 2 months old she found out she was pregnant again. Decided to adopt the baby...that's when my cousin entered the picture. My cousin had an open adoption and was present for the birth of this gorgeous little girl. 6 months later? Birth mom was pregnant AGAIN! But decided to keep this one. And NOW...3 years later....she's pregnant again with her 4th child. 4 pregnancys and she's only 20 years old.

I totally GET your frustration.

Anonymous said...

Preach on. There are so many sad things about the situation. And unfortunately, it's likely the teen mom is going to raise future teen parents. So sad. Your SBP

My Goodness said...

I agree with you!! There were girls in my highschool who had 3 kids before we graduated, or shall I say, before I graduated!

I have not had any personal dealings with adoption, just friends, but this must be one of the hardest things to endure.

Bless you...

Rebecca said...

Hello! I stumbled across your blog and I thoroughly enjoy it! I wanted to comment on this post cause it's so personal to me. I myself was a teen mom and have now gone on to be a successful, contributing member of society and put my son above all others! I married my son's father and love him with all my heart. I deal with being stereotyped as one of these "teenage moms" constantly (although I am no longer a teen). It's frustrating and annoying to us as well!

It's so wonderful God's finally given you your son :)