All About Me

I was raised in New Hampshire, the last of eight children, in a very close, Catholic family. My folks have now been married for 62 years. They are 85 now, but were 45 when they had me. I have 4 brothers and 3 sisters. I used to see my older 4 siblings only at holidays because they were already grown up, some with families of their own already. The three younger and me knew each other very well. Holidays were very loud, and fun. We love to play board and card games. There are 16 grandchildren and 4 (soon to be 5) great-grandchildren. My dad was in the navy during WWII (20 years retired now) and then was an insurance salesman for 20 years. My mother was a stay at home mom, but she was also the bookkeeper for the high school and when I was in high-school, worked at a bank. There are 20 years between my oldest brother and myself, so by the time she started working I was the only one still at home. I was like an only child for a lot of the time and my mother and I argued a lot when I was younger, but now I have a very close relationship with her. I was always "Daddy's Little Girl." I was spoiled by him.


At this same time in Chicago, Richard was adopted at four days old and raised by a wonderful Jewish family. He has an older brother and a younger sister. He decided to go to college in Menlo, California and later, one by one, his entire family would move out to California too. They live between LA and Napa.



I went to school to be a teacher at Keene State College for four years and then moved out to New Mexico, to be with my now x-husband, two weeks after I graduated. I was married to him for 6 years. To make a long story short: I was way to young (he was nine years older then I was and more like a father figure), immature, and didn't have any strength myself. I didn't know what I wanted. I thought I loved him, but now that I am with Richard I know that what I felt for my x-husband was not love.

As I said, I was raised Catholic, but didn't feel a connection to God. I pulled away from the church when I went to college. I tried other Catholic churches off and on when I moved to New Mexico, but still couldn't find something that felt right.
I finally lived on my own after we got divorced (he wanted the divorce not me, but I didn't fight him on it).
When I got my divorce, I went through a major depression. I went to counselling for about a year and a half and then my sister recommended a retreat. It was called BEGINNING EXPERIENCE. It was the best thing I could have done for myself. I FOUND GOD AGAIN. I also realized that He had been with me the entire time. I just didn't know it.

When I came back from that weekend I had a whole new outlook on my faith and I started trying other churches, not Catholic, but still Christian. Finally, I heard God speaking to me. My mother and one of my sisters were not very understanding, but I finally realized that I had to listen to God, not my family, and do what I knew He was telling me to do. So, I know call myself a Christian and talk to God and feel Him in my life everyday.

At this time Richard had a friend, he went to college with, who owned a business in Albuquerque and offered him a job. He moved here about six months before I met him.

About two years after my divorce I found my husband on the Internet. He answered my add. We discovered we lived less then a mile apart. When I got divorced and started dating again, I never thought I would find my soul mate. I had asked other people how they knew that their husband was "the one?" I never understood what they ment when they said, "You just know it." Now I do! Four days after I met Richard, I knew he was "the one" and although I was very nervous (I didn't want to rush into anything and definately didn't want another divorce.) we started dating and we've been together ever since. Thank God he wasn't in a hurry and we took things slow for about 2 years. Then in 2002 we got engaged and in 2003 we got married. He is my soul mate.

I thank God for finding him for me everyday. WHAT A WONDERFUL HUMAN BEING!

When I was married to my x-husband I prayed everyday that I would get pregnant, but nothing happened. "Thank God for unanswered prayers."

For the past five years we have acquired 3 cats and 2 dogs and a house, but have been unable to have a baby. Infertility has definately been a roller coaster, and at times, the 400 pound gorilla in the room that no one wants to look at, but it has also brought us closer to each other (and our families) and has reaffirmed that Richard is an amazing man.