Sunday, November 28, 2010

STRENGTHENING CONNECTIONS

So, we didn't tell anyone ahead of time because we didn't feel they would understand nor agree with our decision, but this afternoon we had "K," Sam's birth mom and her parents, over to our house for coffee and dessert.

Last year, around this same time, we met them at a local coffee shop and had a great visit.


Here is Sam's picture from that visit. He didn't have hardly any teeth and he wasn't even walking on his own yet. Now look at the big boy...."K" is wearing the necklace that Sam gave her for her 20th birthday, which is tomorrow.


What a difference a year can make! Anyway, you may remember this post I wrote about our adoption agency having to shut down. Richard and I were very sad and we talked about it a lot. Normally, we would send pictures and letters for "K" to the agency and then they would send them to her, but because of the close and because we feel very comfortable with our adoption situation, we felt why not just bypass the middle man and mail them directly to her. So, we called "K" and told her how we felt and she agreed.

Also over many discussions Richard and I decided we wanting Samuel to be able to continue to see her and in wanting him to be in a comfortable environment we chose our home as the best place for these visits. We called "K" and her parents and invited them over. They were all very excited.


So, Richard put up the outside Christmas lights early and the day after Thanksgiving I decorated the inside (as I always do). I wanted them to feel like they were spending Christmas with Sam.


They gave him this card....


....with this inscription.....how sweet! They also got him some clothes....


....this book and a book shaped like a tractor with wheels. We had a delicious chocolate, pecan pie and great conversation. They were very appreciative that we invited them and I am hoping to make it an annual tradition.

4 comments:

RB said...

I think it's wonderful that you invited K over to your home. We also send packages directly to our daughter's birth mom. That trust is what helps us build a good relationship. Glad that the visit was fabulous :)

Jill said...

Awesome Tracey. I think we are on the verge of emerging into these waters (it was a completely closed adoption and now Viv's parents have come forward with their families and want more)and our familys' are freaking out. Glad to see it worked well for you all :) And I must say you have quite the handsome young man!!

Debbie said...

That's great, all of it.
Like RB said, it helps building the trust that must be there through the years.
So glad it was a good time together. Cute inscription.

Connie said...

I'm so happy for you ALL. And I think it was a great idea to have it at your house. Congrats.