Monday, September 7, 2009

HAVE A NEW KID BY FRIDAY

I've found this great new book.

The back flap says,
"Want a kid without the attitude? Without the behavior that makes you slink away in the grocery store and pretend you're not the parent? A kid with character who isn't a character? if you're tired of defiant attitudes and power struggles with your little ankle-biters or the disrespectful hormone group, read this book and follow the simple principles, and you'll have a new kid by Friday. Guaranteed!"





I also found that there are videos of Dr. Kevin Leman on YouTube...



The key principles are:

MONDAY:

1. Say it once.
2. Turn your back.
3. Walk away

TUESDAY:

1. Let reality be the teacher.
2. Learn to respond rather than react.
3. B doesn't happen until A is completed.

WEDNESDAY:

What kind of parent are you: Permissive, Authoritarian or Authoritative (responsible)

THURSDAY:

Understanding the difference between self-esteem and self-worth

How to develop the 3 pillars of self-worth (acceptance, belonging and competence)

Moving from praise to encouragement

FRIDAY:

1. Be 100 percent consistent in your behavior
2. Always follow through on what you say you will do.
3. Respond, don't react
4. Count to 10 and ask yourself, "What would my old self do in this situation? What should the new me do?"
5. Never threaten your kids.
6. Never get angry.
7. Don't give any warnings.
8. Ask yourself, "Whose problem is this?"
9. Don't think the misbehavior will go away.
10. Keep a happy face on, even when you want to....do something else.

The second half of the book gives advice on over 100 parenting topics, from allowances and attention seeking to thumb sucking and whining. In future posts on this book I will focus on some of these individual topics.

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