Friday, January 23, 2015

11 THINGS I'VE LEARNED IN 11 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

1. Marry your best friend and you’ll never go wrong.
2. Say, “I love you,” a lot.
3. Pick up after yourself. Your spouse is not your maid.
4. Because of my children, I have become more patient....it's a work in progress.
5. It’s important to be able to laugh at yourself.
6. It’s important to have boundaries with extended family.
7. I can trust him with any truth.
8. Marriage is 100/100.
9. Timing is everything.
10. Honor each other’s strengths. That’s why opposites attract.
11. The best thing you can do for your children is love their father.

Saturday, January 17, 2015

FEARLESS BOY

I have a crappy camera phone, but I had to take these pictures. We have a beautiful day her in New Mexico and Andrew is enjoying exploring outside. He is fearless.

















Thursday, January 15, 2015

LOVE


The original writer of this is unknown, but I read it recently in Joyce Meyer's book, BEAUTY FOR ASHES.

The Trickle-Down Theory of Conditional Love

Jesus loves me, but . . . He loves me conditionally.
THEREFORE: His love is based on my performance.
THEREFORE: I have to earn His love by pleasing Him.
THEREFORE: When I please Him, I feel loved.
When I don’t please Him, I feel rejected.
THEREFORE: If God, who is “all-loving,” does not always love, accept, and value me,
how can I be expected to believe that I am valuable and loveable?
THEREFORE:I don’t believe that I am basically a loveable, valuable person
THEREFORE, I am not able to trust other people who say they love me.
I suspect their motives or figure that they just don’t know the “real” me yet.
THEREFORE, I can’t accept love from other people.
I deflect it. I try to prove that I am right – that I am NOT loveable,
and that they will eventually reject me.
THEREFORE, they usually do.
THEREFORE, I use the world’s standards (money, status, clothes, etc.) to prove
to myself and others that I am VALUABLE.
I need strokes and feedback from other people to prove to myself
and to others that I am LOVEABLE.
THEREFORE, I need a “fresh fix” of strokes every day
just to get through the day feeling good about myself.
THEREFORE, I look to others to give me something that
only God can give me – a sense of my own SELF-WORTH.
THEREFORE, I place impossible demands on people who love me.
I frustrate them. I am never satisfied with what they are giving me.
I don’t allow them to be honest with me or confront me.
I’m focused on me, and I expect them to be focused on me too.
THEREFORE, since I don’t love who I AM,
I don’t expect that others will love me either.
Why would anyone want some-thing that has no real value?
THEREFORE, I try to earn their love by what I DO. I don’t give out of a desire to love,
but to BE LOVED. Most of what I do is tied up in “self,” so the people
I profess to love don’t really feel loved. They feel manipulated.
I’m trying to avoid rejection rather than trying to build a loving relationship.
THEREFORE: I am not able to sustain a healthy, loving, and lasting relationship.

The Trickle-Down Theory of Unconditional Love

Jesus loves me, this I know.
He loves me unconditionally.
THEREFORE: His love for me is based on who HE is.
THEREFORE: I have not earned His love, nor can I earn His love.
THEREFORE: I cannot be separated from His love.
When I obey Him, He will bless me.
When I disobey Him, there will be consequences for my behavior.
He may not like my behavior, but He always loves me.
THEREFORE: Since I have experienced God’s love, I know I am loveable.
THEREFORE, since I know that God loves me,
I am able to believe that there are people who could love me too.
THEREFORE, I am able to trust people who genuinely love me.
THEREFORE, I am able to accept the love that those people give to me.
THEREFORE, since my most basic need for love and a sense of self-worth have been
met by God, I don’t need to be “fixed” by other people.
THEREFORE, although I have needs that I look to other people to meet,
I believe those needs are balanced and God-given (companionship, affection, fun).
I try to be honest in assessing those needs and in asking for what I need.
THEREFORE, I expect other people to be honest with me.
I can handle criticism or confrontation if it is done with love.
THEREFORE, since I know that I am God’s special and unique creation,
I know that the love I have to give is valuable.
THEREFORE, I don’t feel that I have to “perform” for other people.
They will either love me for who I am or they won’t.
It’s important to me to be loved for who I am.
THEREFORE, I am able to get my mind off of what others are thinking ABOUT ME
and focus on other people and THEIR NEEDS
THEREFORE: I am able to sustain a healthy, loving, and lasting relationship.