tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7631451666879199613.post9100247463785020390..comments2023-11-05T07:37:23.135-05:00Comments on LIFE AT TRACEY SPEED: COMMENTS ON RECENT COMMENTSTraceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11064113501129840818noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7631451666879199613.post-63684139760771133342010-01-12T13:46:34.354-05:002010-01-12T13:46:34.354-05:00Tracey,
I am so sad that many people just don'...Tracey,<br /><br />I am so sad that many people just don't get it about how some first mother's and adoptees feel. But how can the general public if they haven't walked in our shoes? I think many of us first mothers are more pro-reform than anti-adoption. If your child was taken from you today do you think you would ever get over the loss and grief? Do you ever think you would not be bitter towards a society that let such a situation happen?<br />Anyway...ignore us bitter/angry first mothers if you wish...I have no issue with that BUT PLEESE listen, read and listen again and read what adoptees have to say about adoption. They are the ones that matter the most and we must listen to them. PLeeeese try to understand what they are saying/feeling.I see that Mei-Ling has posted comments on your blog. I believe that her blog is a must read as she expresses her emotions and thoughts so extremely well. visit: sisterheping.wordpress.com what Mei-Ling has to say about adoption is so important...<br />Thanks for letting me comment.They called her Chloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12448468657563750708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7631451666879199613.post-7043810817731934242010-01-09T21:16:51.974-05:002010-01-09T21:16:51.974-05:00Referring to the comment above....I put "moth...Referring to the comment above....I put "mother" in quotes to show that I DO believe she is the child's first mother and as a mother has to make the best choices for the child....please do not try to tell me what I do or do not believe because of something I put in quotes.<br /><br />You are right, it is pointless to engage in debate if one's mind is already set to assume that ALL adoptees have had horrible experiences, feel abandoned and all adoptive parents are trying to change a child's heritage and hide their past.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11064113501129840818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7631451666879199613.post-27009338773174932682010-01-09T19:09:51.102-05:002010-01-09T19:09:51.102-05:00"I think through counseling the "mother&..."I think through counseling the "mother" needs to make the decision to parent, or not to parent."<br /><br />But right here you use quotes.<br /><br />Therefore you are already indicating you do not believe she is a mother or can parent... before she's even STARTED to parent. (Note: I am not talking about situations where there is evidence of abuse/neglect/alcoholism.)<br /><br />It is pointless to engage in debate if one's mind is already set up to assume the worst of a situation as to why a "mother" feels as though she cannot parent and/or does not deserve to be called as such.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7631451666879199613.post-36418417203483640412010-01-08T17:32:57.245-05:002010-01-08T17:32:57.245-05:00I am an adult adoptee who blogs about my 20 year r...I am an adult adoptee who blogs about my 20 year reunion with my first family, my adoption, and being a mother. There is a very good article called "Happy Adoptees" by Julie A. Rist that explains alot. It is the second article down on my blog right now if you'd like to read it.Samantha Franklinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249283547377633349noreply@blogger.com