Friday, May 30, 2008

A letter to the woman I pray for every day...

I've found a new friend in Bri who is a little farther along in her adoption journey then we are. She describes how hard the birthmother letter was to write. Then there is Melba who has taken a lot of thought with hers too. We had to write autobiographies for the agency too and the letter for the birthmother could only be one page long. We turned in all of our paperwork and the scrapbook for the birthmother last week. The following letter is on the first page when she opens the scrapbook.

So here it is........
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Hello,

We want to thank you for giving us this opportunity to open our hearts and share a little about ourselves. We hope that you’ll come to know us, love us, and trust us to raise and love your child as our very own.

Although the doctors can give us no reason why, we have been unable to conceive, either naturally or through artificial insemination. We have always known we were meant to be parents and through prayer, we now feel, that God has led us to adoption.

We dated for three years and have been married for 5 years, own our home and have three cats and two dogs. They have been our babies up to this point. We feel very lucky to have found each other. We have had plenty of time to grow, travel and do our own things and now we are ready to share our lives with a child.

We are both very close to our family. We want to share that great family with a little one of our own. Richard has an older brother and a younger sister, with two children of her own. Tracey is the last of eight children. She has four older brothers and three older sisters. All are married and there are a total of sixteen children between them. There will be a lot of uncles, aunts and cousins to get to know and to offer love and support.

We want you to know that we will love your child as though it did come from us directly. We don't ever want them to hurt or feel that they aren’t special. Richard was adopted and we will raise this child as he was raised by his parents, to feel like an equal in all, family respects. We are pleased to be able to give back, what was given to Richard. We will help this child grow to have a strong self-esteem and a love of learning. We know that this child ultimately belongs to God and that we are just being given the honor of raising them. You will always have a special place in our hearts and lives. You have to be very special to have produced such a beautiful soul.

We hope that God will grant you some peace as you make your decision. We can't imagine how difficult this is as you consider placing your child in our home, but we are praying for you.

With much love,

Richard & Tracey
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9 comments:

Ashley said...

Wow, I remember writing that letter too. It's sooo hard to put everything down in a snapshot of who you are. I can't imagine being in the birthmother's shoes and reading those letters. Your's is great.... :)

annieology said...

Very nice. I can see the multitudes around the Thanksgiving table.

Melba said...

I love your letter too, Tracey! It's very well written and friendly...I know you and Richard are going to be amazing parents, and I can't wait until that wonderful day comes!!

Melba

Anonymous said...

That's really a lovely letter, Tracey. Bob and I are still in the early stages of adoption, but this letter is very much on our minds. There are so many things I want to say, and somehow, I fear it will never be adequate. Your letter is not long, but it really says it all. Best of luck to you both.

Mama Smurf said...

Beautiful letter! You went and made me all teary eyed!

Anonymous said...

It's been 10 years since we wrote our letter and made those scrapbook pages. Sometimes it seems like yesterday and other times it seems like a million years ago. What a journey! BTW, we didn't wait very long after turning all that stuff in before the little tornado hit our house!!

Keep the faith...it WILL happen.

Jer. 29:11

LL said...

Beautiful letter.

I also say a prayer for the birthmom of our future child every day.

Becky said...

Well done. I don't think that you will wait long at all on a match! Praying!

Bri said...

Beautiful letter! Very well written! May our prayers be answered!